Coping With Shouty People & Scary Stuff On The Internet.

IMG_3948Everywhere we look at the moment seems to be chaotic.  The news and internet are full of shocking and frightening stories and even switching on to Social Media sites can be not as uplifting as hoped. I used to enjoy browsing through Facebook seeing what people were up to and reading positive and uplifting stories but navigating through horrifying images and stories that make your heart plummet is not what I want to be faced with. Watching people argue their opinion so fiercely that they forget their humanity, they forget their connection to the other human they are arguing with.  The need to be right overwhelms and I personally find it incredibly disturbing that such hatred can be created through differing opinions. We all have differing opinions, of course we do! I have differing opinions to some of my friends, family and even with my partner but why on earth would I hate someone for thinking and believing what they think? Browsing through Facebook or internet forums with a cup of coffee has become a minefield of eye closing avoidance in order to find the things that do bring a smile and some positivity and this, I feel, is incredibly sad. Having discussed this with several friends and clients of late I know I am not alone in this.

So what are the options? Well, I suppose we could disconnect from the TV and internet, switch off mobile and land line phones and live like a hermit. That is Option number 1 and although quite tempting, probably not the most ideal when it means that not only are we disconnected from the bad stuff but we are also cutting off connection to the good and positive information that we could be receiving.  There IS lots of positive and lovely information being shared and I for one do not want to miss out on those elements in order to keep out the other. So, on to Option 2 –

Join in? Get involved in the arguments and the pointless going round in circles seeing who can shout the loudest? Immerse yourself in signing and sharing petitions with horrific images attached to them? Get angry, become a keyboard warrior? Watch every available bit of news, try and work out who is telling the truth when every outlet for news seems to come from a slightly different angle and become immersed in fear and then get angry again as it is a good cover up for the fear? I am giggling as I write this as I cannot even think of anything else to add in to this option without laughing at myself. Option 2 is not an option for me.

So Option 3 then. Balance.
I WANT to see the positive things, I WANT to laugh at videos of goats doing yoga and pictures of mice sitting in flowers, I want to know what positive things my friends and co-workers are doing and how little by little, all these amazing people are out there changing the world bit by bit in their own unique way. I WANT to sign petitions that are promoting and asking for positive change (I don’t want to sign the ones that are promoting negative action to counteract negative action, two negatives do not make a positive!) I WANT to be connected to that. So I have a choice and my choice is to be in balance and this is how I am trying to do it.

Before I even switch on my computer I am now taking a few drops of an essence I made which I have called “Shields Up” a bit like a pre-emptive rescue remedy to help protect my energy.  I am then imagining a mirror held between myself and the computer and anything I do not want to take in is bouncing off and back to where it came from. If I see something heartbreaking then I do not focus on it for any longer than it takes for me to simply send love to that animal, that person, that country, that situation. I am not denying that these things are happening, I am not intending to live in la la land, of course not. I am simply choosing what I take on board and into my energy field. For every horrifying picture of an animal, I try to see it happy, healthy and free and send it love. For every person who is living in lack I try to see them healthy, abundant, empowered and send them love. For every country suffering war or famine I try to visualise it fertile, full of happiness, joy and growth, and send it love. For every argument I see I just stop reading and send love.

IMG_3979I know there are some who may argue with my choice, but we all have to find something that works for us. I know that if I am surrounded by anger and fear then I cannot be myself and I cannot then be in a strong energetic state to help others, so for me that is a no win situation.  Being in a strong and empowered state is vital if we want to make positive changes in this world and if we are knocked sideways by the negative stuff then how can we be of assistance to anyone? I believe very firmly in the power of visualisation, the power of positive thinking and if thoughts and beliefs can change the way things are in the world then perhaps if we all focused solely on the good, sent love to the bad and then moved on to focus again on the positive then the world would begin to lift, little by little, bit by bit, thought by thought.

I am interested to know how you deal with these issues so do feel free to comment.


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  1. “Keyboard warriors” … oh my, that had me crying with laughter! I love it!

    On a serious note, the whole world seems to be populated by angry people: the only time I felt any kind of shift was when I landed in India recently, where I didn’t sense any hostility.

    I DO believe in the power of visualisation, the power of positive thinking yet there does come a time when you have to draw a line in the sand. Last Saturday, I came under such a ferocious personal attack from a family member that it actually came as a blessed relief that these feelings were finally out in the open, leaving me free to walk away and know that no matter how much love and compassion I show this person, its not going to change their attitude, their feelings towards me. Sometimes we just have to recognise when enough is enough and shore up our boundaries and remove ourselves from specific situations (such as certain Facebook groups hahaaha)

    1. I think the anger is a mask for the fear that people are feeling, people get defensive when they feel vulnerable and become shouty!
      I agree with you, sometimes we just have to say no and walk away, back to the boundaries thing again… I am so sorry you had that situation but I am glad you are free now. We cannot make everyone like us and have to accept the fact that is their issue and not ours, focus on the things we can change. Keep on being you beautiful, those that truly know you love you xxx
      PS I am not Tommy even though this says I am, I am not sure why it thinks I am him, I do not have a beard….

  2. Debbie l love your blogs your really should write more! I see things people and animals suffering all the time on FB book updates l move swiftly pass them their pictures stay with me haunt me pain me l cannot comment on them as then l feel as if l acknowledge their situation l must help them in some way……..politics bore me they are all liars l share pages with animals for adoption you never know they may just find a loving home. Off now to la la land its nice here in my head 😉

    Love Margaret x

    1. Thank you Margaret, I will try and write more often! Sharing posts for animal adoptions is such a good way to redress the balance and I know several people who have taken in animals that way, that is how I got Primrose the duck who was in need of a home!
      La La land is a good place to be 🙂
      Love Debs xx

  3. I love this Debs, so well put and a reminder to me on how to deal with this stuff – I do have trouble containing my passion/anger when I see negative/cruel info on social media, especially when it comes to animals and children but I must remember to deal with it in a positive way like you do. xxx Also thanks for the reminder to top up on my energy, I always forget this needs doing! Lots of love to you and yours xxx

    I am going to finish illustrating my unicorn today now! 🙂 xx

    1. I get cross too Glyn, we cannot deny our feelings. I think passion is the positive side of anger, it is a good thing to have, it is what makes positive changes in the world. It is a fine line isn’t it? Illustrating unicorns sounds a very happy thing to be doing, am sure it will be beautiful <3 xx

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